A Handbook of Bible Law - Relationship to other persons

Copyright 1991 by Charles A. Weisman. 2nd Edition: Aug., 1992; 3rd Edition: Dec., 1994


Comments: After the necessary relationship we are to have with our Creator, the manner of relationship we have with one another stands as primary importance in our earthly lives. The Bible clearly reveals that we are to have a certain attitude, conduct and relationship towards other persons. Christ summarized and commanded this interpersonal relationship as follows: "Thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself" (Matt. 22:39).

An explanation of who is regarded as a "neighbor" to us is given in the parable of the good Samaritan (Luke 10:29-37). The priest and the Levite, who had walked by an injured man without giving him aid, were no more regarded as a 'neighbor' than the thieves who robbed and beat the man. Only the Samaritan, who had aided and comforted the injured man, was regarded as a 'neighbor' to him. Christ had also told us who it is that we are to regard as brethren or as our brother:

"For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother" (Matt. 12:50; Mark 3:35).

It is clear that not all people are to be regarded as our neighbor or our brother, yet that status is to be assumed in those we don't know. Thus, when we meet a stranger we are to treat him as though he were our neighbor or brother unless we have evidence to the contrary. Just as all are innocent until proven guilty, all must be regarded as our neighbor or brethren until proven otherwise. How will this be proven? Christ said, "By their fruits you will know them" (Matt. 7:16, 20). Their ways and deeds and acts will eventually reveal whether or not they are a neighbor, or if they are to be regarded as brethren.

The law of love, as commanded by Christ, is thus the basis of Christian ethics. Every commandment intended to govern the relations of men is fulfilled in the commandment of love (Gal. 5:14; Rom. 13:8).

Love, in its full and proper sense, is a union of the internal feelings with the outward act: whence it appears that neither doing good nor wishing good to another alone can in strict propriety be denominated love. Generally, if the inside concern is absent, so will the outward deeds.

The relationship we have with others as prescribed in the Bible establishes an effective and efficient social order. It requires that we avoid strife which causes division, that we do not defraud others who we depend upon for honesty, that we reproof and correct one another that errors and mistakes be eliminated, that we offer forgiveness so that grief and hatred be not multiplied, and that we have fellowship with others for mutual comfort and edification.

3A - Duty Towards Brethren

  1. To restore the erring. Gal. 6:1; James 5:19-20.
  2. To help bear the burdens of one another. Rom. 15:1; Gal. 6:2.
  3. To help those that are weak in faith. Rom. 141; 1 Thes. 5:12.
  4. To pray for brethren. Job 42:8-10; 2 Cor. 1: 11; 1 Thes. 5:25; 2 Thes. 3:1.
  5. That which we do for our brethren we do for Christ. Matt. 25:35-45.
  6. Comfort each other and edify one another. 1 Thes. 5:11.
  7. He is considered great who is servant to his brethren. Matt. 20:26-28; Matt. 23:11; Mark 10:43-44; Luke 22:26.
  8. It is not good to do anything which causes your brother to stumble, or become offended, or be made weak. Rom. 14:13, 21; 1 Cor. 8:11-13.
  9. We ought to lay down our lives for the brethren whom God laid down his life for. 1 John 3:16.
  10. Do unto others as you would want others to treat you. Matt. 7:12; Luke 6:31.
  11. Endure all things for the sake of the elect. 2 Tim. 2:10.

3B - Forgiveness

  1. You are to forgive the trespasses of your brethren. Gen. 50:17; Matt. 6:12; Matt. 18:21-22, 35; Luke 11:4.
  2. Forgive those you have a quarrel against as Christ forgives us. Eph. 4:32; Col. 3:13.
  3. If your brother trespass against you, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. Luke 17:3.
  4. If your brother trespass against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to you, saying, I repent; you shall forgive him. Luke 17:4.
  5. If any has caused sorrow, forgive and comfort him lest he be overwhelmed by the sorrow. 2 Cor. 2:5-7.
  6. If you do not forgive others God will not forgive your trespasses. Matt. 6:14-15; Matt. 18:29-35; Mark 11:25-26.
  7. Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone. Mark 11:25.

    3C - Love

    1. You shall love your neighbor as yourself. Lev. 19:18; Matt. 19:19; Matt. 22:39; Mark 12:31; Luke 10:27-28; Rom. 13:9; Gal. 5:14; James 2:8.
    2. Christians commanded to love one another as Christ has loved you. John 13:34-35; John 15:12-14, 17; Rom. 12:10; 1 Thes. 4:9; Heb. 13:1; 1 Pet 1:22; 1 Pet 2:17; 1 Pet 3:8; 1 John 2:9. 1 John 3:11; 1 John 4:7, 11; 2 John 1:5.
    3. Let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. John 3:18.
    4. We should walk in and pursue love. 1 Cor. 14:1; Eph. 5:2.
    5. He that does, not love his brother does not love God, for he that loves God loves his brother also. 1 John 4:20-21; 5:1-3.
    6. Through love serve one another. Gal. 5:13.
    7. He that loves not his brother abides in death and walks in darkness. 1 John 2:9-11; 1 John 3:14-15.
    8. Let all that you do be done with love. 1 Cor. 16:14.
    9. Love works no evil, and thus is the fulfilling of the law. Rom. 13:89 10; James 2:8.
    10. Let love be without hypocrisy. Rom. 12:9.
    11. We are to fervently love one another with a pure heart. 1 Pet. 1:22.
    12. Love should be promoted and maintained. Heb. 13:1.
    13. We should be tolerant and forbearing towards one another in order to show our love. Eph. 4:2; Eph. 6:9; Col. 3:13.
    14. The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith. Gal. 5:22.
    15. Love covers a multitude of sins. Prov. 10:12; 1 Pet. 4:8.
    16. Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Prov. 27:5.

    3D - Honesty and Sincerity

    1. Honesty is to be provided to everyone and in all things in life you do. Rom. 12:17; 2 Cor. 8:21; 2 Cor. 13:7; 1 Tim. 2:2; Heb. 13:18
    2. We should think on honest things. Phil. 4:8.
    3. Respect what is right and honest in the sight of all men. Rom. 12:17.
    4. We are to walk honestly. Rom. 13:13; 1 Thes. 4:12.
    5. Sincerity characterizes our love to Christ. Eph. 6:24.
    6. A godly sincerity should characterize our whole conduct. 2 Cor. 1: 12.
    7. He who is near to God speaks the truth in his heart. Psa. 15:1-2.
    8. Dishonest gain condemned. Ezek. 22:13, 27.
    9. The preaching of the gospel to be with sincerity. 2 Cor. 2:17; 1 Phil. 1: 16; Thes. 2:3-5.
    10. Christians exhorted to be sincere. 1 Cor. 5:8.
    11. Those with an honest and good heart hear and keep the word of God and bring forth fruitful work. Luke 8:15.
    12. We should pray on behalf of others that they may be sincere. Phil. 1:9-10.

    3E - Lying

    1. You shall not lie to one another. Lev. 19:11; Zeph. 13:3; Eph. 4:25; Col. 3:9.
    2. Lying is iniquity and an abomination to God. Prov. 6:16-17, 19; Prov. 12:22; Isa. 59:2-4.
    3. We should pray to be delivered from lying lips that speak contemptuously against the righteous. Psa. 31:18; Psa. 120:2.
    4. The righteous should hate and avoid lying. Psa. 13:5; Psa. 119:163; Prov. 13:5; Isa. 63:8; Zeph. 3:13.
    5. Acquiring treasures by lying is the fleeting fantasy of those who seek death. Prov. 21:6.
    6. Should not respect or keep company with those that lie. Psa. 40:4; Psa. 101:7.
    7. It is better to be a poor man than a liar. Prov. 19:22.
    8. Lying is a sign of apostasy. 2 Thes. 2:9; 1 Tim. 4:1-2.
    9. A lie lasts for but a moment, but truth shall be established forever. Prov. 12:19.
    10. Lying is an inherent attribute of the wicked. Psa. 58:3.
    11. Punishment and judgment for lying. Psa. 5:6; Psa. 63:11; Psa. 120:3-4; Prov. 19:5, 9; Jer. 50:36; Rev. 21:8.

      3F - Hatred and Malice

      1. Thou shall not hate your brethren in your heart. Lev. 19:17; Col. 3:8; 1 John 3:15.
      2. Wrath is a work of the flesh. Gal. 5:20.
      3. It is wicked to have hatred cloaked by deceit. Prov. 10:18; Prov. 26:24-26.
      4. Hatred stirs up strife Prov. 10:12; Prov. 15:18.
      5. Hatred is inconsistent with the ways of God. 1 John 2:9, 11; 1 John 4:20.
      6. Blessed are you, when men shall hate you, and ostracized you, insult you, and spurn your name as evil, for the sake of Christ. Luke 6:22.
      7. Let none of you think evil in your heart against your neighbor. Zech. 8:17.
      8. Whosoever is angry with his brother without cause shall be in danger of judgment. Matt. 5:22.
      9. Show no malice nor desire ill will towards your brethren. Job. 31:29-30; Psa. 35:12-14; 1 Cor. 14:20; Col. 3:8.
      10. Christian growth requires that you set aside all malice and guile. 1 Pet 2: 1.
      11. Malice works as leaven and is incompatible with sincerity and truth. 1 Cor. 5:8.
      12. There is a time to hate. Eccl. 3:8.
      13. Christian liberty is not to be made a cloak for maliciousness. 1 Pet 2:16.
      14. We should hate those that hate God. Psa. 139:21-22.
      15. A servant of God is to be gentle to all men. 1 Thes. 2:7; 2 Tim. 2:24; Titus 3:2; James 3:17.

        3G - Fellowship

        1. Christians to be in fellowship with one another. Acts 2:42; 2 Cor. 8:4; Gal. 2:9; 1 John 1:3-7.
        2. We should have fellowship in the gospel. Phil. 1:51 27.
        3. We should serve one another. Gal. 5:13.
        4. We are not to consent with sinners and evildoers, or walk with them, or sit down with them. Psa. 26:5; Prov. 1: 10-15.
        5. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion has light with darkness. 2 Cor 6:14-17.
        6. Where two or three are gathered in Christ's name, He is there in the midst of them. Matt. 18:20.
        7. We are not to have fellowship with unfruitful works of darkness. Eph. 5:11; Phil. 3:2;
        8. Bad company corrupts good habits and morals. 1 Cor. 15:33.
        9. Christians are to work together each using their specific talents, abilities and ministries as one body, working towards God's will and His kingdom - For we are God's fellow workers. 1 Cor. 3:5-11; 1 Cor. 12:4-31; Eph. 4:11-16.
        10. We are to be like-minded with one another according to Christ Jesus, that we may with one mind glorify God. Rom. 15:5-6.
        11. If any come to you who do not have the doctrine of Christ, do not receive him into your house nor greet him. 2 John 1:9-10.
        12. Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly. Psa. 1:1.
        13. It is good and pleasant for brethren to dwell together in unity. Psa. 133:1.
        14. With unity and fellowship comes strength, advantages, and benefits. Eccl. 4:9-12; Rom. 12:4-8; 1 Cor. 12:4-31.
        15. Do not keep company with fornicators, extortioners, the covetous, idolaters, slanderers, revilers, drunkards or the wicked, or brethren who walk contrary to God. 1 Cor. 5:9-13; 1 Cor. 10:19-20; 2 Thes. 3:6,14; 2 Tim. 3:2-5.
        16. If we walk in the light as Christ is in the light, we have fellowship with one another. 1 John 1:7.
        17. Do not associate with a man given to anger, or go with a hot-tempered man, lest you learn his ways. Prov. 22:24-25.
        18. Unity exhorted by being like-minded one toward another according to Jesus Christ. Rom. 12:16; Rom. 15:5; 1 Cor. 1: 10; 2 Cor. 13:11; Eph. 4:39 13; Phil. 1:27; Phil. 2:2; 1 Pet. 3:8.

        3H - Flattery

        1. Flatter is not godly and is not to be used. Job. 32:21-22; Psa. 5:9; Psa. 12:2-3.
        2. Do not associate with those that use flattery. Prov. 7:21-27.
        3. Speak not with flattering words so as to please men but rather please God who tries our heart. 1 Thes. 2:4-5.
        4. Flattery is a corrupting influence. Prov. 7:21-27; Dan. 11:21 32.
        5. Beware of those who speak many words, flattering people to gain advantage. Jude 1:16.
        6. Punishment for flattery. Job 17:5; Psa. 12:3.
        7. Flattery is a snare to those that use it. Prov. 29:5.
        8. A flattering mouth brings ruin. Prov. 26:28.

        3I - Disputes, Adversaries and Strife

        1. Rejoice not at the misfortunes of your adversaries. Job 31:2829; Prov. 24:17.
        2. We are to love our personal adversaries. Matt. 5:44; Luke 6:35.
        3. Pray for and forgive those that hate and persecute you. Matt. 5:44; Luke 23:34; Acts 7:60.
        4. Do not desire the death of your adversaries. 1 Kings 3:11.
        5. We are not to curse adversaries. Job 31:30.
        6. Do not hastily strive with your neighbor, but discuss your cause with him. Prov. 25:8-10.
        7. Do not strive with a man without cause. Prov. 3:30.
        8. Christians exhorted to avoid foolish and ignorant disputes over words, fables, unlearned questions, or matters about the law or genealogies that give rise to mere speculation, knowing that they generate strife, envy, abusive language and evil suspicions. 1 Tim. 1:4; 1 Tim. 6:4; 2 Tim. 2:14,23; Titus 3:9.
        9. The LORD hates him that sows discord among brethren. Prov. 6:16, 19.
        10. Withdraw from disputings between men of corrupt minds, who are destitute of the truth, and suppose godliness is a means of gain. 1 Tim. 6:5.
        11. Strife in your heart is dishonorable. 2 Cor. 12:20; James 3:14.
        12. Pride is a cause of strife and contention. Prov. 13:10; Prov. 28:25.
        13. Do not grumble and complain against one another, lest you be condemned. James 5:9.
        14. We should do all that is possible to avoid strife between brethren. Gen. 13:8.
        15. Christians are not to walk in strife. Prov. 26:17; Rom. 13:13.
        16. We are to avoid those who cause divisions and offenses contrary to biblical doctrine. Rom. 16:17.
        17. You are not to act out of strife but do all things without disputing. Phil. 2:3, 14.
        18. Christians should submit to a petty assault or wrong rather than engage in strife and conflict (should turn the other cheek). Matt. 5:39-40; Luke 6:28-30; 1 Cor. 6:7.
        19. A wrathful man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger pacifies contention. Prov. 15:18.
        20. We should seek God's protection from strife and conflict. Psa. 35:1; Jer. 18:19.
        21. It is honorable for a man to stop striving, since any fool can start a quarrel. Prov. 10:12; Prov. 20:3.
        22. We should praise God for delivering and protecting us from strife. 2 Sam. 22:44; Psa. 18:43.
        23. If your adversary is hungry, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing you shall heap burning coals upon his head. Rom. 12:20.
        24. Strife is a work of the flesh. Gal. 5:20; James 4:1-2.
        25. It is a fool's lips that start contentions. Prov. 18:6.
        26. Strife leads to confusion and every evil work. James 3:16.
        27. Promoters of strife should be expelled. Prov. 22:10.
        28. The beginning of strife is like releasing water; therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts. Prov. 17:14.

          3J - Fraud and Deceit

          1. We are forbidden to defraud our neighbor or brethren. Lev. 19:13. Mark 10: 19. 1 Cor 6:8.
          2. No one should defraud his brother regarding the matter of lust and sexual immorality. 1 Thes. 4:3-7.
          3. Do not let those who work deceit dwell within your house. Psa. 101:7.
          4. Deceive not with your lips. Prov. 24:28.
          5. Beware of those that serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, for by their good words and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting. Rom. 16:18.
          6. You shall not deal falsely or treacherously with your brethren. Lev. 19:11; Prov. 3:27-29; Isa. 33: 1; Mal. 2:10.
          7. You shall not keep back the wages due a hired laborer by fraud. James 5:4.
          8. Deceit is falsehood. Psa. 119:118.
          9. Keep your lips from speaking guile. Psa. 34:13.
          10. Take heed that no man deceive you regarding the Gospel. Matt. 24:4; Mark 13:5-6; Col. 2:18.
          11. God abhors a deceitful man. Psa. 5:6; 1 Pet 3:10.
          12. Deceit and fraud a characteristic of the wicked. Psa. 10:4, 7.
          13. The saints are to be free from deceit and avoid such practices. Job 31:5; Psa. 24:4; Zeph. 3:13; Rev. 14:5.
          14. Let no one deceive you by any means that would cause you to depart from the faith. 2 Thes. 2:3; 1 Tim. 4:1-3.
          15. Punishment will come to those who attempt to gain by deceit. Prov. 20:17.
          16. Deceive not yourself regarding the ways and prophesies of God. Jer. 37:9; James 1:26.

            3K - Compassion and Sympathy

            1. We are exhorted to sympathize with other Christians. Rom. 12:15; 1 Cor 12:25-27; 1 John 3:17.
            2. Having compassion can make a difference. Jude 1:22.
            3. We should exercise compassion and pity towards the afflicted. Job. 6:14; Matt. 18:33; 2 Cor. 2:6-8; Heb. 13:3.
            4. Have compassion for the poor. Prov. 19:17.
            5. Compassion and aid to be given to one that is found hurt and injured and robbed. Luke 10:30-37.
            6. Have compassion and pity for one another. 1 Pet 3:8.
            7. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. Luke 6:36.
            8. Show mercy and compassion everyone to his brother. Zech. 7:9.
            9. To him that is afflicted, pity should be shown from his friend. Job 6:14.

            3L - Reproof of Faults and Sins

            1. Trespasses are to be first taken to the transgressor for him to remedy his fault. Matt. 18:15-17; Rom. 15:14.
            2. If your brother trespass against you, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. Luke 17:3.
            3. We should reprove and admonish one another to prevent sin. Lev. 19:17; 1 Thes. 5:12; 2 Thes. 3:14-15; Heb. 3:13.
            4. We should receive reproof kindly. Psa. 141:5; Prov. 9:87; Prov. 24:25.
            5. Have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. Eph. 5:11.
            6. Do not judge others lest you be judged yourselves, for in the way you judge, you will be judged. Matt. 7:1-2; Luke 6:37.
            7. Hatred and rejection of reproof of one's faults leads to error, ignorance, remorse and destruction. Prov. 5:12; Prov. 10: 17; Prov. 12:1; Prov. 15:10, 32; Prov. 29:1.
            8. Reprove one another that there be no strife or contentions. 1 Cor. 1: 11 - 13; 1 Cor. 3:3; 1 Cor. 11: 171 18.
            9. Do not reprove and correct others of their ignorance and blindness when you suffer from the same affliction. Matt. 7:3-5; Luke 6:41-42.
            10. He who rebukes a man will find more favor afterward than he who flatters with the tongue. Prov. 28:23.
            11. Admonish those who are unruly. 1 Thes. 5:14.
            12. Reproofs of instruction are the way of life. Prov. 6:23.
            13. Reject a heretick and factious man after the first and second admonition, knowing that such a man is perverted and lost in sin, being self-condemned. Titus 3:10-11.
            14. If a brethren is in fault then restore him in a spirit of meekness. Gal. 6: 1.
            15. Do not reprove a fool or a scoffer, lest he hate you, for reprove is more effective for a wise man, and he also will love you for it. Prov. 9:8; Prov. 15:12; Prov. 17:10.
            16. You should not refuse to be corrected and reproved by the righteous among you. Psa. 141:5.
            17. Confess your faults to one another. James 5:16.
            18. You are to forgive one another if any one have a quarrel against you. Col. 3:13.
            19. In meekness instruct and correct those who are in opposition, for perhaps God may give them a change of mind towards an acknowledgment of the truth. 2 Tim. 2:25.
            20. We are exhorted to reprove, rebuke and correct with authority, patience and instruction. 2 Tim. 4:2; Titus 2:15.
            21. He who heeds reproof gets understanding, and will abide among the wise. Prov. 15:31-32.

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